Day 13...addition

I just read the first page of a book given to me by someone who is turning out to be one of the best people in my life...she gave me the book without knowing the contents, only having seen the author on TV and thinking she might speak to my situation...boy...she could not have been more right. I have been through a pretty rough couple of years, the worst part of which has been the breakup of my marriage.
Were we the happiest couple on earth? No. Did I love the man? Yes, absolutely.
The Wisdom of a Broken Heart has captured me in the first few paragraphs...if you have ever had a broken heart, read on and see if you can't recognize yourself in these words.
"This book is about how to deal with the trauma of a broken heart, the kind you experience when a romantic relationship ends. There is no other experience like this one. For many people, the devastating, obsessive nature of a broken heart is a complete surprise. You have a sense of being completely shattered, right in the middle of your chest. Discomfort takes over your body, making it feel heavy and dull or oddly light, like something that has been burned to a crisp and now floats in the air like ash. Most noticeably, heartbreak puts your own mind out of your control. You fixate on certain thoughts or events, torment yourself with unanswerable questions such as "what if?" and "how come?" and are susceptible to shocking waves of grief that flood you without any warning whatsoever, even while asleep. You can no longer count on yourself making it through a business meeting or the check out line at the supermarket without having to stifle tears.
Everyone and everything you encounter becomes a part of your heartbreak by reminding you of your loss, sadness, and shame. A colleague's casual morning greeting feels like a snooty taunt; missing the bus is testimony to your having been born under a bad sign, and every single couple in every single song, movie, and television show points out either the impossible beauty of love(if they are happy) or the inevitability of it blowing up in your face(if they're not). The whole planet mirrors your sorrow, and there is nowhere to hide. You once thought of daily events as sometimes as having to do with you, sometimes not, but now that the wall between your inner life and outer world has come down, everything becomes extremely personal and intimate. It feels like the world has turned upside down. It has.
As it turns out, you will see that this is excellent news."
Susan Piver